Common mistakes guys make on their profiles

Hey Guys, is your profile up to par?

Learn how to avoid the most common mistakes guys make on their profiles. Are you having a hard time finding that special female companion online? Do you somehow feel you are not connecting as well as you should be? Well, your profile may be the culprit. You've spent a sufficient amount of time writing and polishing it up, and you've asked the advice of your buddies who've said they think it looks fine—but let's look at this from the view point of a woman. Let's face it, men and women are different species; what appeals to men may be a turnoff for women. There are many common mistakes guys often make on their profile; let's take a look at several of them.

Your profile name may be a hoot with your buddies, but is it unappealing to the opposite sex?

Take a look at the profiles of any dating site and you'll often see usernames that were intended to get a chuckle, but, more often than not, offend women. Guys with usernames such as “partyAllNite21” or “HotGuy_Wants_U” are usually not aware of the wrong signal they're broadcasting. There are very few self-respecting females that would think twice about striking up a conversation with a guy that refers to himself as “Mr_Perfect_4_U1980”. It's wise not to trivialize or to make fun of the online dating process. Most women simply glance at a username, and if it's not abrasive to their sensitivities they may decide to further peruse the rest of your profile; don't diminish your chances with a goof ball username.

When choosing a username, use a combination of good taste, clean humor, and common sense. Try not to pick something that would send out an improper, negative vibe. Incorporating your favorite past times and your name is always a safe bet. Think of all your positive attributes and the appealing aspects of your personality.

Does your profile resemble a stale resume?

Mentioning your job in your profile is always a plus, but don't enumerate every job you've had since your teenage years. Some guys get sidetracked when writing up their profile for the first time—it's much easier to neglect your emotional side by pouring out your career goals and aspirations. Try not to dwell on your career—or any topic for that matter—as it tends to draw attention away from the reason you are really here in the first place. Don't give women the wrong impression by blatantly advertising your workaholic lifestyle.

A sentence or two about your livelihood should suffice. You'll have plenty of time to talk about your job—don't clutter up your profile with 90% of it. Use your profile as a reflection of what you enjoy outside of the office; you'll have a much better chance of finding that perfect woman. Most women are looking for a compatible personality, and yakking about your 9-to-5 is a poor indication of what your personality is really like.

Don't limit yourself. Try not to sound too picky.

When filling in your match's ideal description, keep in mind that women often take those specifications literally. You may be thinking that you are listing desired general attributes—age, height, interests—and you assume that women will not view these qualities as stringent carved-in-stone requirements, but, truth be told, most women do. If a potential match finds that her weight is a couple pounds out of range, she may pass you up because of a small triviality. The bottom line is this: sounding too picky or judgmental can severely hamper your chances of a hook up.

It's ok to post your match preferences, but by giving some slack to your requests—adding a few years to her age, or perhaps a few pounds to her weight—you greatly increase your chances of hooking up with a fine catch that might not have thought themselves good enough to reply in the first place.

Dwelling on the negativity of past relationships can be dating doom.

Coming across as too jaded or bitter on your profile can result in a lot of missed opportunities. There are few worse turn-offs for women than sounding too hung up on past doomed relationships. Understand that your profile—perhaps aside from your picture—is an important first impression; women will send your profile through a kind of mental filter and any negativity will most likely result in an automatic lose of points.

Converting your negatives into positives is always a good course. Instead of pointing out that “I'm tired of playing games all the time”, try to soften it by stating “I believe honesty and trust is the cornerstone of any relationship.” With a little thought, any low points that you've experienced in your past relationships can be carefully rewritten so that they won't make you come across as tried and jaded. Remember, you want them to take an interest in you, so you must give off a pleasant vibe right off the bat.

Be sure to spend some time crafting your essay.

Many men don't really put much thought and time into their profile essay. What does one say? What is the best way to market one's self? Playing the strong silent type won't get you very far in the online dating scene. You can't afford to skimp on your essay when it's essentially a window into your personality. Many women use the profile as a deciding factor—should I continue based on what I've read so far? Always make sure that you have enough meat in profile essay.

Let's face it—you don't have to be as articulate as a seasoned novelist. Stop putting so much pressure on yourself. The best policy has always been honesty, and your profile essay should be no exception. Just let the reader inside the real you; give them a glimpse inside your personality. You can start by describing what a typical day would be like in your shoes. Mentioning what you do for a living and any of your hobbies is always a plus, as well as sprinkling little bits of humor here and there.

Displaying your vanity is a bad move.

Men often like to show off their six pack abs or their newly acquired tan in their profile photo, but women browsing your dating profile don't necessarily want to see the entire package just yet; an image of a macho guy flexing his biceps is not usually what motivates a female to immediately respond to your personal ad.
Try to maintain an air of mystery about your image—putting on a dressy shirt is not going to scare women away or make them any less attracted to your physical appearance.

Sweetness overload may be a bit too much at times.

Women are notorious consumers of pillow talk and romance—they eat it up, right? So you may be tempted to go overboard on the romantic talk, showering compliments galore. Ask yourself this: is this the way I usually talk to women? If it's not then your romantic rhetoric may sound fake and forced. Most women are actually looking for authenticity in men. It's a bad idea to project the sweetness-at-all-times image from the get-go—this move can often lead to a fragile first impression that crumbles at further inspection.

A better way to portray your playful side is to explain that you love to have a good time and joke around, but that you know when it's time to be serious. This lets the ladies know that you're not out just to play around, and it shows that you have a mature side, knowing when to deal with important issues. When you pour on the sweetness too thick, you may send out the wrong message—desperation.

Moms and Continuing Education

Are you a stay-at-home mom? If so, you may want to consider the many continuing education options. While your children are at school or napping, you can take an online class or two. You can even work toward a college degree from home.

Many people don't realize how many options there are when it comes to continuing education. In addition to the traditional classroom settings, most colleges offer a variety of online classes that are perfect for stay-at-home moms. Online classes are one of the great things about continuing education. These classes usually consist of lectures posted once or twice a week, along with assignments and tests. You can read the lectures as your schedule permits during the week. Then you can submit your assignments to your instructor online as you complete them. The tests are usually timed and many are created so they're open book.

If you aren't sure what you'd like to major in, you can look through the college catalogs online. Most four-year colleges and community colleges offer a lot of continuing education options. If you still have questions, you can call the college for additional information. They'll be able to help you decide how you can achieve your educational goals.If money is stopping you from pursuing continuing education, ask the college about scholarships and other tuition help.

Most colleges have people on staff who can work with you to find scholarship money or loans that can help you pay for the education you want. Many organizations have scholarships designed to encourage women to attend college. Check around. You may be surprised at what's available.

To avoiding becoming overwhelmed or discouraged as you pursue your continuing education goals, set a realistic schedule for yourself. You may decide that one class a semester is all you can handle. That's fine. It may take a few extra years, but you can get through college this way. The important thing is that you stick with it.

Aren't sure you want to go for a degree? Colleges also offer other continuing education options. Perhaps you're interested in creative writing. You could take an online course that would help you perfect your craft.Other continuing education options exist in addition to colleges. For instance, some community centers are now offering online classes you can take. If you want to get out of the house, some of these centers even offer child care while you take the classes.Technical schools also offer online classes. These schools have many continuing education options. Take a look at their course catalogs. You may be surprised what you can learn while still staying at home with your children.

If you don't have your high school diploma, you can study for the GED at home as well. Many companies and websites offer preparation programs that can really help you with the test. You'll get to practice for all five sections of the test--reading, writing, math, science, and social studies. Continuing education offers you many opportunities. These days, most traditional and online classes and programs are designed to make learning both interesting and fun.

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Sustaining Romance After Becoming Parents

A major challenge for parents, especially new parents, is finding the time to be together in ways that foster romance in their relationship. A question that a reader recently asked me is:  “Is it the quality of time versus the quantity of time that is significant in 'we-time'? If yes, how?”

Romance is determined far more by the quality of the energy between two people than by the amount of time they spend together. If two people spend all day together, but they are not open to each other regarding the sharing of learning, laughter, play and creativity, they will not feel romantic and intimate. They will feel far more romantic if they spend a few minutes together and that few minutes is filled with the intimacy that comes from being open hearted and emotionally connected with each other. If two people hug goodbye in the morning and the hug is perfunctory with their minds already elsewhere, that hug will do nothing to foster romance later that evening. But if the hug is filled with love, warmth, tenderness and caring, that hug can do much to sustain the romance through the day to be further expressed in the evening.

The question is, what determines the quality of energy between two people? What makes one hug filled with romantic potential and another hug empty and meaningless?

The quality of the energy between two people is determined by their intent:

* If your intent is to have control over getting love or avoiding pain, the hug will be empty and depleting, regardless of your partner’s intent.

* If your intent and your partner’s intent is to give love and share love, the hug will be fulfilling and energizing.

There is a vast difference between the intention to get love and avoid pain, and the intention to give and share love. 

When your intention is to get love, you are coming from an empty place within and wanting your partner to fill that place for you. You will be giving the hug in order to get filled – giving to get. Your touch will energetically be a pull on your partner’s energy to fill you up and make you feel lovable and worthy. Since it doesn’t feel good to be pulled on energetically, your partner may hug you from a withdrawn state, with the intention to avoid the pain of being pulled on. If one of you hugs with the intent to get love, and the other hugs with the intent to avoid pain, the hug will not feel good.

If both of you are coming from an empty place within and both of you are hugging with the intention to get love, there will be no love to share and the hug will not feel good.

If one of you hugs with the intention to give and share love and the other hugs with the intent to get love, the giver will end up feeling unfilled. He or she may enjoy giving love, but there will be no sharing of love, and it is the share of love that is truly the highest experience in life.

If both of you are already filled with love within due to taking personal responsibility for your own feelings and wellbeing, and to being spiritually connected to the Source of love, then your intent is likely to be to give and share love. When you both have the intent to give and share love, the hug will be a wonderful expression of your love and will be very fulfilling. Starting your day with a few minutes of sharing love sets the stage for sharing love at other times. Even if your time together is very limited, romance can be sustained when two people have the intent to give and share love. 

Moving out of the intent to get love and avoid pain and into the intent to give and share love is a personal process of inner growth. It takes both people desiring to learn how to fill themselves with love so that they have love to share to create and sustain a fulfilling romantic relationship. As parents with limited time to spend with each other, doing this inner work is essential for the relationship with thrive.

Why some eRelationships dosn’t work?

You are single, bored and you just have nothing to do. It is another miserable day like the day before. You need someone to talk to and you are turning on the computer, browsing some... dating sites. There are so many people... singles, like you are.

What should you ask from them? Can they change your life for better? The answer to the last question is up to you. Would you let a person you have met online to change your life? Are you willing to do this?  Do you trust someone you have met this way?

SOME people simply do not have the courage to let an online relationship to develop and change in a normal healthy relationship. Are you one of them?Let me re-ensure you that online relationships really are working, and yes it can change your entire life, in a good way. :)

But there are some impediments or mistakes which are leading to the end of the relationship between two people that could have had a good future together:

1. First of all if you do not take people you are
taking to too seriously, you will be treated the
same way.

2. Being too secret and reserved. If you do not
tell things about you and you are not working to
develop a relationship, nobody will make this for
you.

3. Trust or lack of trust is the biggest
impediment of an eRelationship. You have to try
to get the people you are taking to trust in you,
and then find out if that person is a trustworthy
one. There are so many ways to check out this.

4. Being shy. If you are interested in someone
and you want to meet her/him offline, let her/him
know this.  What do you have to lose?

5. Fear of disappointment or fear of becoming a
victim of someone with bad intentions can make
you paranoid. It is good to be preventive but not
exaggerate about this. It is not funny and will
pull people away.

6. Unbelieving. If you do not believe that an
eRelationship can become something more then it
is, you will not pay too much attention and...
You get exactly what you give and some more, don’
t you?

7. Do not make that relationship a priority in
your life. Any human needs to feel that is
important for someone, that is the center of
someone life, even if you have meet that human
online. Don’t you feel the same? Wouldn't you pay
more attention to someone if you would know that
you are a priority in his/her life?

8. Not making the next step. Talking online can
be fun but it is not enough to get to know a
person better and after a while it can become
boring. Talking on the phone can help you two to
develop the relationship and do not forget that
you can feel chemistry only when you two are
meeting face to face, touching each other,
feeling the smell of her/his perfume.

9. Being insincere, pretending that you are
something that you are not will lead you
eventually to the end of any relationship. So be
honest from the very beginning, maybe you have
just meet the match of your life, don't take the
risk to lose her because of a stupid mistake.

10. Thinking that online dating sites are some
kind of shops where you can find a lover like you
find a pear of shoes, and if you are braking the
shoes you can go back to that shop and buy
another pair just like the first. It is not true,
every human, every soul is unique. If you lose
her/him it is for good. So I am sure that you
will have problems like all couples have but it
is worthy to make the effort to solve these
problems together.

Be happy that the technology gives you the chance to meet your match online, but do not waste this chance, it could never come back to you.

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How to Be Romantic

No one is born romantic.  But like most things in life, being romantic is something that can be learned.  Although romantic gestures may seem like they come easily to some people that is only because they've had lots of practice and because they are in tune with what motivates the opposite sex.  Because that’s all that is involved.  Being romantic involves finding out what your partner wants (not what they need!), and then finding a unique way to meet those wants.  Pretty simple, huh?  

Let’s get one thing cleared up first.  Being romantic isn't about some grand extravagant gesture like flying first class to Paris for a 2 week romantic blitz.  It’s about the little things.  Little things are simple things that you do for your loved one. Despite the fact that they are "little" they can mean a lot because it illustrates that you took time out of your busy life just to show them how much you care.  

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One thing that most people want, male and female, is to feel special and loved.  It’s how you show them that you love them, where the challenge comes in.  Some people feel loved when they are told repeatedly that they are loved.  Others feel loved when they are touched frequently.  And others see love in gestures and everyday kindnesses.  Of course, there are others that may need all three of the above to really feel loved and secure but usually there is one need that dominates.  You need to find out what your partner needs and then you can begin working out what method you will use to romance them.  

Not sure what your loved one prefers?  Do an experiment or three and see how they respond?  You’ll very quickly work it out.

What can you do if your loved one wants to hear how much you love them?  You need to tell them.  But don’t just tell them and have it coming off like some kind of rote response to hello or goodbye or please pass the pepper.  Think about different ways you can get your message across.  You could:

. Post them a good old fashioned love letter

. Send a romantic email 

. Text them a love message

. Place a love note somewhere it will be found easily.

. Make a long list of the many reasons why you love your partner. 

. Always call your loved one just to say goodnight. 

. Recite a favourite love poem over the phone.

. Give your partner a compliment.

If your loved one needs regular physical contact to feel loved you can:

. Give them a massage.

. Keep in physical contact as often as you can.

. Give them random hugs 

. Put your arm around your loved one in public

. Hold hands as you walk side by side

. Cuddle up in your pj’s and watch a romantic movie together 

. Make sure you kiss them when you get home and kiss before you leave

If your actions speak louder than words for your loved one then you’ll want to focus on gestures that express your feelings.  You can try:

. While your partner showers, heat up his or her towel in the dryer.

. Have flowers delivered to partner at work.

. Surprise your partner by arriving home with their favourite drink, snack, or ice-cream. 

. Arrange for an intimate lunch date with your partner.   

. Call your partner to discuss your romantic plans for that evening.

. Write your own love coupon offering an hour of your time as their personal love slave.

. Cook a favourite meal for your partner and then eat it, slowly, by candlelight. 

. Pick a bouquet of wild flowers and present them with a kiss.

. Call spontaneously at their work to say “I am thinking of you.”

If they like all of the above then you can really go wild and mix it all up together.  The only limit is your own imagination and the desire to make it happen.

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